Saying Goodbye to Your LBD

We all have had, and most likely still have that outfit we keeping thinking that one day we’ll wear but never do. Let’s say it’s been sitting in our closet for at least 3 years, sometimes with the tags still on. You want to organize your closet and really make some smart decisions, but this one gets you stuck every time. What if an opportunity to wear it comes up and you’ve already gotten rid of it? You start feeling frustrated and organizing feel like it just got hard, but don’t quit yet because you’ve got choices to make the right decision.

Choice #1:

You decide you are the kind of person who goes out to events where that type of attire is worn and you actually start attending them. You give yourself 6 months to wear it at least once and if you haven’t, (which you’ve marked on your schedule with a reminder), you will sell or donate it. You do this because giving yourself a time limit will show you the real truth of what you want and who you are. If you really want to wear it, you’ll start choosing to find places to wear it and if not, you’re giving yourself more space to find out what you like doing now and hey, you can always buy a new outfit should an occasion arise.

Choice #2:

You take an honest look at your life and realize that while it may seem exciting to be someone who goes out for fancy evenings, that’s just not really you anymore and that’s okay. You accept it and realize you actually like your life so you donate it/sell it happily knowing someone else is going to love it too. Or maybe you don’t feel ready to let go of the memory of who you used to be, but guess what? You don’t need the dress to keep the memories but you can make a fun, new memory by taking a picture of you wearing the dress before you sell/donate it or frame a photo you already have of you wearing the dress.

Choice #3:

Keep the outfit but take no actions that will result in actually wearing the outfit. This way every time you look in your closet you think something like: “I should be someone who goes to fancy events…what’s wrong with me? I’m a failure at life because I don’t have an event to wear this to. I’m not cool. My dreams will always evade me and I wish to torture myself forever which will then further prevent me from ever realizing my true dreams and goals and probably a lot of my time and energy will be wasted dreaming of something I don’t have and probably don’t want anyway.” After reading this, do you really want your home to have anything in it with that kind of energy attached to it? It’s exhausting just to read those thoughts so imagine the physical, emotional and spiritual impact that energy has in your home. It’s time to make a decision and act!

Small acts of self love mean that you need to be honest with yourself about where you are in life now. We only have control over our present and if you’re not where you want to be, that’s okay. Be honest about where you are now and focus on the small steps that will take you one step closer to where you want to be. It took you years to get where you are now, give yourself a break and realize that it may take some time to get to where you want to be but remember; the more you focus on keeping only what you like and use in your home, the more space you allow for other things to show up. Imagine what your world will look and feel like when each day you only see what you really like so get started on making small, self loving decisions for yourself today and see what happens!

Alison Kero Bio:

Alison Kero grew up with 2 different organizational styles being modeled to her. One parent was precision neat while the other was a pack rat. Through her teenage and college years Alison lived more like her pack rat parent but when she became an adult and started living on her own, she searched for ways to easily get and stay organized.

When Alison became an organizer in 2004, she constantly searched for ways to make her clients lives and her own, easier through organization. However, minor amounts of clutter always tended to creep up in Alison’s life, which she found frustrating and kind of exhausting. Finally Alison had a major “ah-ha Oprah moment” after reading a book about tidying up. She realized that using self love as her decision making tool she could create her best possible living space filled only with what she liked, used and needed. It was the only way to ensure the outcome would be life transforming because she realized she was now only seeing good things in her home and life and she was beginning to find herself underneath some of the clutter. By first using self love in her organizing process, Alison was then able to transfer those same easy and simple techniques into all decisions she made in her life. Whether it was who to spend time with, what activities she chose or objects she brought home, Alison had found that many parts of her life were beginning to improve because of her self-love decision making; increased energy, productivity and overall contentment were just a part of what she’s been seeing show up ever since.