I’ve been blogging less lately. And I’m sorry. I am usually full of ideas, and can barely write them all out quickly enough to share with you. I have my camera out and ready to go and I usually have at least a few posts “in the bank”. But life has changed.
My husband and I have been buying a home. This is a happy time and an exciting prospect for us. However, it’s been a gut wrenching experience lasting much longer than we thought. We started the process about three months ago.
We’d set a budget for ourselves, even before we chatted with the mortgage company. We knew how much we wanted to pay monthly and we set out to find something in that price range. There were a few challenges. First of all, it was winter. There’s not a lot on the real estate market in New England during the winter months. And the houses that are on the market, have been left over from the previous fall. Therefore, they, ummmmm…leave something to be desired. Yes, we saw some decent houses, but we also saw some DISASTERS. There was one home with a 1950’s intercom system in the walls of every room. We saw a home with mold up the walls and we even saw a home with a second story deck, and no stairs to the yard.
As the months wore on, we were getting discouraged. We finally found a home in a town, a little further away than we’d originally wanted, that we loved. We put in an offer. From the first day, the process became a nightmare. The seller was insulted by the offer and refused to counter. We kept coming up in price and he wouldn’t budge. We finally agreed on a price, very little below is asking price and began the inspection process. We spent thousands on inspections and receive reports on the items wrong with the home. We presented these to the seller. He was once again so insulted, he refused to reply. Once again, we gave in and proceeded with the sale.
Upon signing our contract, our attorney insisted the home have all legal permits for work done. The seller refused and said he would walk away if we wanted him to complete this task. And so, with broken hearts, we walked away. We’d invested dozens of hours in the property, as well as thousands of dollars. But we knew it was the right thing to do. The seller had decided he didn’t like us and was being unreasonable. There was nothing we could do.
During all of these ups and downs, I’ve continued working with my clients, organizing and when I can, writing. However, I was also in the process of packing which made it more difficult to take blog photos.
Here’s what we learned from the experience:
- People’s issues are THEIR OWN, not yours. If they are unhappy, they will do whatever they can to make others unhappy.
- Everything is meant to teach us something.
- Patience and faith can get you through just about anything. But they aren’t easy.
We’re working on another home now and I hope to have an update soon….but in the meantime, I wanted to let you know I’ll be around here more often. Thanks for being a reader and sticking with us!